Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Is it embarrassment factor?

Wikipedia says (embarrassment is an emotional state experienced upon having a socially or professionally unacceptable act or condition witnessed by or revealed to others. Usually some amount of loss of honour or dignity is involved, but how much and the type depends on the embarrassing situation. It is similar to shame, except that shame may be experienced for an act known only to oneself. Also, embarrassment usually carries the connotation of being caused by an act that is merely socially unacceptable, rather than morally wrong.)
So is getting spanked embarrassing and if so is that a turn on for you? Having my pants pulled down and spanked on the bare ass is not embarrassing if only my hubby is present but on occasion done in somewhat public places like say a park bench does make me blush with embarrassment. Also the thought of getting caught is an immense turn on! Socially unacceptable, I guess that is true since spanking anyone in public especially a grown woman is not considered the norm. My next question is does the embarrassment factor feed into our enjoyment for spanking? For example when I was younger and spanked in front of my entire family by my uncle I was soooo embarrassed that my hate for being spanked in front of family grew into my love for it as an adult. Perhaps it's the trauma of being so embarrassed and ashamed that later developed into a fetish and not the pain of spanking itself.
Lets face it, spankings hurt but it's not the worst pain one can experience. I would love to here your thoughts and on the matter and what might of contributed to your love for spanking. Was it the embarrassment factor?


Suzanne said...

From my own experience, embarrassment is a huge factor in spanking/domestic discipline. When compared with the actual discomfort the spankee feels from the discipline itself, it probably carries much greater weight with regards to their feelings. My own sissy would surely opt for a more severe beating as opposed to being put over my lap in front of my friends.

Brett B said...

Great questions, Veronica. I think embarrassment is the strongest factor for me. There are lots of other factors that make spanking exciting and a turn on, but ever since I was a child, the embarrassment of it is what made it different than other things that can be exciting. Embarrassment was the strongest emotion I felt when getting spanked or when someone else was getting it. Same as you, I think my hate for an experience grew into a love for spanking as an adult. A public spanking, especially for punishment, is a much more embarrassing scene, and that makes it exciting or thrilling in a scary kind of way. I don't know exactly why embarrassment is a turn on, but it's a very vulnerable feeling. I especially like witnessing a spanking when it puts a girl at the center of attention, and she likes being at the center of that attention even though it's not easy for her.

OldFashionGirl said...

I think it's that vulnerability that we give into makes it such a turn-on as far as the emotional aspect of a spanking.

Nice john said...

I find your question as to whether the "embarrassment" factor may be the root of becoming a spanko, interesting. Since I can't explain why spanking has been a part of me since earliest memories, I can't dismiss that possiblity. However, I have been trying hard for a few years now, to accept myself as I am, rather than find an explanation as to why I am a spanko.
I hope I am over being embarrassed about wanting spanking to be an important and more open part of my life.
I too am turned on by the idea of public spankings. Your question created a question for me; Is the idea of a spanking in front of others, or being observed by a passerby, an inner need to not hide anymore? To demenstrate that I am ok with the way I am. I don't have the answers, but I do know that your blog is a wonderful example that spanking can be an exciting part of a relationship. Thank you for that!

Anonymous said...

I love the thought of other women knowing that I will be spanked later. "yes she SHOULD spank you." is music to my ears.


Ron said...


Great blog thanks.

Yes embarrassment is a huge factor, whether private or public. Does not take away from the from and the turn on of a spanking but being over someone's lap having your bottom spanked is hot but yes a little embarrassing, but fun!

Great responses as well.


Anonymous said...

Fascinating post Veronica, and I so love to hear about your strict upbringing, very exciting ;-)
Embarrassment of public spankings create the frisson Veronica. It's the delicious prospect of being caught. And also the knowledge that for (particularly) older folk, there's no harm in spanking! It's part of strict, loving themes, both past (strict upbringings like yours and mine) and present. Plus the humour /fun angle too. We all have the naughty, "wicked" gene ?!
Fascinating Veronica, but I was not spanked in public by mommy, or in front of friends or family. This is surprising, given that my mommy was extremely strict and Ol' fashioned. And this was the 1960s !! When public, smackings upon naughty lil' daughters' pale, bare botties in the mall, parking lot, or park was not out of the question!
I wish I had been smacked in public Veronica ha-ha ! My mommy missed an opportunity! :-)

But Oh my, in the privacy of our home, punishment was harsh but fair. Mommy said it was kind not to smack in public/friends /family, but to compensate, she said the kind punishment given in private by mommy needed to be stern! Gulp ! No wishy washy methods from my mother Veronica.

Mommy gave us memorable whuppin's with a very thin rattan cane (the "switch") and we only ever got it on the sensitive, bare skin on our botties. Panties never stayed up Veronica. Mom was uncompromising about that. Quite right too in retrospect ! And again, typical of those stern times. The sting was ferocious but of course harmless (and administered lovingly)

Two exceptions to the spanking in front of family, prevailed Veronica. First, my grandma was often present for our switchin's. She was fierce and had whipped my mommy's bare backside with a similar lil' switch in the 1930s/40s!

Second, the elderly neighbours were part of the family and frequently heard the smack of whippy rattan on the tender, bare botties of two naughty lil' princesses over the fence. Doors and windows were open in long, Southern summers Veronica. But no, they didn't actually witness it in the room !
So the atmosphere was slightly crushing when we were being raised in Ol' fashioned times.
As a strict, loving mommy, spankings should be humbling not humiliating. Formality, sternness and kindness are crucial. Just as my mother administered them to lil' Ol' me !
Naughty Nostalgic Brenda xx